[think of it like a wine and cheese pairing]
First, 20 Ways to Not be a Gentrifier (which I might say could also be titled, “How to be a decent human being” and/or “How to live with other people”
Second, this lovely and brilliant explanation of Micro-aggression:
As a follow-up to my last post, I’d like to note that I often hear folks (not generally my friends, but the media or other folks I encounter) say they think other folks are being too sensitive when they are offended by other people making comments that bother them because they are related to milder forms of discrimination or oppression. for example:
(to a lady) “what do you mean it bothers you that a dude cat calls you on the street? or that a random dude says you look super hot? you’re overreacting!”
(to a Japanese person, i actually heard this one recently): “why would it bother you that some random person decided to ask you (instead of all the white people nearby) where there’s a good Chinese restaurant?”
(to a trans* woman, I’m thinking Janet Mock at the moment): “why are you upset that I said you used to be a boy?”
I could go on, but my point by bringing this up is to explain that these comments in isolation may not seem awful to a person who doesn’t experience real, actual, repeated discrimination and harassment on a regular basis. but when we do, it adds up, and it makes us sensitive, for good reason.
and unless we talk about it often (which folks are discouraged to do by other folks saying things like “stop being so PC!” or “you’re just playing the race card!”) we are perpetually blind to the things other folks who are different from us experience on the regular.
for example, after being groped by random strangers (the first time it happened to me was in the hall in high school, wish I could say that was the last), I have become very sensitive to unwanted advances or sexual used language from strangers. I react more acutely to small things, because the big things have happened and the smaller things happen with such frequency.
so here’s the thing: people aren’t being too sensitive when this stuff upsets them. WE should be more sensitive to their lived experiences and extend compassion and respect.
By Kimberly McCullough, an activist and snazzy lady about town in Portland, Oregon (via Facebook)